My husband and I are fast approaching our 2 year anniversary.
I wouldn't change it for anything in the world but can I get an amen for making it through the two toughest years of my life thus far?
It blows my mind how much this "honeymoon stage" has resembled more of a battle field then anything else.
My love for my husband hasn't wavered but I would be lying if I didn't say I had questioned both of our sanity in the decision we made October 9 2010.
I look around and see happy couples who seem to "have it together" and I wonder what we're doing wrong?
I guess the key word there would be "seem."
Over the past two years there are two reoccurring messages I feel like God has been trying to teach me. I say "reoccurring" because every time I think I've got it, he test me and I fail miserable (ever had one of those?). I am still working on these today and for all I know these may be the two truths God uses to sanctify me my whole life.
The first message I have heard in my heart loud and clear
over and over and over is...
He doesn't compare his children and He doesn't want us to either
He doesn't want mine and my husbands marriage to look identical to my sister's and her husbands, or my parents, or my preacher's and his wife's. God created me uniquely for my husband and together our marriage doesn't fit into any other mold other then the one God made with just our two names on it.
The other lesson i continue to learn is..
He doesn't expect perfection, but for us
to STRIVE toward it!
This is the most freeing truth of my whole married life to date. It's ok that we don't have everything figured out. I have never been married before. He has never been married before. Why would I hold us to any other standard then that of a new couple LEARNING how to be married?
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